I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:7-9 (NIV)
If you are single and you long for physical intimacy, and you sometimes struggle with your sexuality, and you want to be married, it is God’s will for you to be married. If the above describes you then I can tell you that you do not have the gift Paul was talking about in our text above.
On the other hand, if you are single and completely satisfied with being single, with no desire to be married and no trace of bitterness from past experiences informing your decision. Then you need to know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You may just be operating with a gift that God has given you; in fact Paul says it better in our text, because you can serve God undistracted. In this period of seasonal love, ditch the pressure to be attached, if you don’t feel wired to do so. The society over the years has pressured people that have no business being married into marriage, by demonizing being single; not bringing into cognizance the fact that everyone is not wired to do so.
So if you are single and desiring to be married, be assured that God does have someone for you, keep serving God and stay faithful. But if you’re single and satisfied, with no desire for physical intimacy whatsoever, please stay in that state and serve God effectively and the people around you lovingly. Your worth in life is not tied to a relational status.
My declaration and confession: Lord help me to serve you better in whatever stage I am in relationally. Take away every distraction on my path of purpose in Jesus name!
Ignite Thought: Our relationship status should not define us, our purpose for creation should!